Birth Mother Forums

February 3, 2012, 6:38 am

The first year was sheer he__ for me. Then things seemed to ease up somewhat, but I always thought about him and wondered about him. I had a semi-open adoption with updates sent/given through an agency intermediary. It was a relief and a blessing to be able to see his picture, even if it was...

February 1, 2012, 6:50 pm

Yes... and that is exactly what you tell him. The majority of adoptees are not treated that way..He just got a lemon. Tell him exactly what you said in your last sentence of your post ..then hug him...and tell that boy how much you loved him and love him....and give him a big hug. Do something...

February 1, 2012, 6:11 pm

You need to tell them as soon as possible. Just expain to them that you were young and you dont want that to happen to them. That child you gave up may very well be looking for you...Everyone has a right to know where they came from .... and what they are made of. If you were the adoptee....you...

February 1, 2012, 6:06 pm

yes....seek an open adoption to where the adopting parents keep in contact with you. then when she is 18 she can find you. Everyone wants to know where they come from. That could be the special gift to her...demand with a court order that they keep in contact with you once a year. Pick a date.

January 28, 2012, 10:57 am

(((shebreathes))) I am so sorry that you are hurting right now. I was hoping for a better response from amom on this. I'm sorry that she has left you hanging yet again. I can't understand why she would keep doing this to you. I'm sure you are worried about your son. You have every right to be...

January 24, 2012, 9:17 pm

thank you everyone for their response....it truly means everything to me

January 24, 2012, 3:51 am

I am Searching for my adopted brothers Earl's birth family on his behalf. He was born on oct15th 1968 in I believe Coldwater Michigan or somewhere near there and was adopted by an older couple (My adopted Parents) that lived in Lansing Michigan both adopted parents are now deceased. His name at...

January 17, 2012, 1:27 pm

Thank You so Much you guys!!!! I can tell all ready that just being able to talk about it here is going to help me... Knowing you guys are here makes me feel like I am not that alone in this

January 15, 2012, 2:04 pm

i would love for the boys to know eachother. it's something i think about often. i hope someday they do. i know my son who is with me tells me he hopes that his brother wants to meet him some day and know him. *crosses fingers* I just came across this post today and wanted to tell you that it...

January 13, 2012, 4:56 pm

I am always here you could say, so if you need to talk, I'm here for you :-) Mine too comes in waves. I actually broke down right before christmas and wrote the amom a letter.....still have not had a reply...and i'm guess i wont either. I feel angry. everyone keeps telling me to not be so...

December 28, 2011, 12:46 am

The only college scholarships I'm aware of strictly for birth mothers are offered through the major adoption agencies. Many of their websites go on and on about the scholarship assistance. Concerned United Birthparents (CUB) offers college scholarships, but I *think* they're limited to women...

December 17, 2011, 4:48 pm

Looking for my friends from January 1979 to April 1979 when I left white shield . Contact me at livinlife_92651@yahoo,com or Face book under Kym Pearson my maiden names are Moll and Saling . Kym:wings:

December 16, 2011, 7:21 pm

i really know how you're feeling right now. for some reason it seemed easier as the years went by then right now, they seem so hard it's almost unbearable. my son is almost 14 and i wish he was 18 too. i hope you find some comfort during this month. april is the month that i dread.....sucks for...

December 12, 2011, 7:13 pm

Unfortunately the group stopped meeting this past Spring.

December 2, 2011, 8:54 am

KK- I gave my daughter up for adoption almost 17 years ago. It is very normal to be feeling what you are feeling. It may be harder on you since you are so close to her and interact with her, but that may give you some comfort too, knowing you will be in her life. I had the same fears too,...