Birth Mother Forums

July 29, 2010, 9:28 am

I first want to tell all you birth mothers how amazing you are. You hold a special place in my heart. I was adopted and I know how difficult it must be. I was just wondering what do you look for when you starting looking to place a child for adoption? Do you look for similar interests,...

July 17, 2010, 6:12 am

Hey, guys -- I just got this news release from CUB (Concerned United Birthparents). News Alert: Atlanta CUB member Jennifer Yurfest (one of the "Girls Who Went Away" in Ann Fessler's book) will be appearing on CNN Saturday July 17 between 5 and 6 p.m. EDT to lend a birthmother's perspective to a...

July 13, 2010, 1:10 pm

which words were the dismissive and rude ones so that I can refrain from using them again?

July 11, 2010, 12:42 pm

NP, I'm rarely as clear as I think I am, LOL. (I'm feeling a need to start a thread talking about why I, personally, chose adoption for my firstborn.)

July 6, 2010, 6:40 am

Hi Ali..... I am new here too. I wish you all of the best that the Universe can give you in your search. I just got word last week that my 30 year old daughter wants to connect with me. Thru the years I simply prayed for her and always hoped that she would want to find me yet I was at peace...

July 6, 2010, 6:35 am

Hello.... I am new here and am glad to have found this site. My daughter whom I gave to a loving family 30 years ago wants to connect with me. I got the letter this past week from the Children's Home Soc of FL in Jacksonville. What a wonderful thing! I am grateful for all of your posts! Had...

July 3, 2010, 8:35 pm

Its been a long time since I have posted anything but after learning more about her from her familly and my brothers lets just say its been one hell of a ride so far. Not to mention she has told me to "get over it" and that I "dont need to be emotional" ect ect there are too many little comments...

July 3, 2010, 11:06 am

No, I haven't checked on that, I can certainly look into, thanks for for your reply! Happy 4th of July!

July 2, 2010, 7:34 pm

I am looking for any birthfamily that I might have. I am 28 y/o and was born 4-5-1982 in Baraga County Memorial Hospital in Baraga County, L'Anse, Michigan at 11:43 am. I dont have alot of information about my b-parents except that they were both in their 20's when I was born and wasn't ready to...

July 2, 2010, 7:01 pm

There is a familial link of Autism in my family. My adopted daughter has Aspergers. I have 3 boys with Autism. There is a lot of medical history. WOuldn't she want to know if there was the off chance she might have a child born with Autism? My daughter, is buzzing around in circles because she...

July 2, 2010, 6:01 pm

I often wish I did not have contact with him. SInce I have kids with him its hard to not be. Though he is abusive and manipulative, my daughter sees him via rose colred glasses, she thinks he is a GOD, he has her brain washed. At the moment the only contact is phone calls, I stopped visitation. ...

July 2, 2010, 10:37 am

How was your relationship with your mother before this happened? How did CPS get involved? How old were you? It does seem as if your mother does not want you to be part of your life as she facilitated the adoption. How long after your baby was taken did the adoption come about. Did the judge...

June 22, 2010, 6:14 am

Thank you, my husband and I have talked about having kids many times and each time is different. He goes back and forth on wanting or not wanting more kids, so I think that's what makes it so difficult for me. Honestly, I don't want to have another kid right now but within the next couple of...

June 20, 2010, 6:47 am

That's an interesting name for the process. I have known my birth family for approximately 11 years. At first I was immersed. Then I realized you can't turn back the clock and make a relationship that would be the same had decades not passed. It takes time to process. My birth father was...

June 19, 2010, 5:44 pm

First of all, I hope that everything works out for you and you receive a beautiful baby. When it comes to how open your adoption should be depends on both you and the birth mother and your preferences. As a birth mother trying to decide who would raise my baby I was looking for someone that was...