Birth Mother Blogs

November 14, 2011, 3:55 pm

I am a birth mother; a name I kept hidden from everyone except my parents and my sister and my husband for over 30 years. I was told that I would forget. I never did. This is my story. I dated a boy, K, who was a year older than me, when I was a teenager. My mother didn’t meet K until we had...

November 17, 2011, 12:56 am

This is the time of year when families get together and have turkey. We are already gearing up for Christmas and I swear I just heard christmas music the other day. For me, this time of year is bittersweet as I have mentioned previously. I am celebrating my bio-sons 3rd birthday December 30th,...

November 26, 2011, 9:57 am

For the last 3 weeks I have been going through a really ugly depression, sort of lost but in perfect awareness of who I am and where I was headed. I was so utterly lonely, that I couldn't utter the words to people around me that, "I was depressed". So my best friend of 15 years, Jenny, came to...

November 27, 2011, 9:58 pm

A recent online discussion that bashed Birth-First parents left me really irate for a moment,  but then I thought, what if she was right? What if I don't matter? I can't fully explain it but  the conversation dulled me. The content itself isn't important but I wonder, will it matter that I love...

December 9, 2011, 3:50 pm

Last weekend, I was blessed with the opportunity to go on my second, birth-first mom retreat. I am finding it difficult to talk about in it's wholeness, but the experience and what I can tell you is that I met some of the bravest women in this life.  From the get go, Friday night, I opened up to...

December 25, 2011, 1:36 am

There is an emptiness aching in my chest tonight, throbbing and sending echoes of pain through me. It is keeping me up, and I am somewhat at unrest. I was laying in bed thinking about my idea of a perfect day, a perfect gift. I was thinking about Phoenix. I want to read him a story, hug him,...

December 26, 2011, 2:07 pm

I spent last night playing various board games--Taboo, Scattergories, and a few others. It was fun, and despite plans of a movie falling through, it has been a decent holiday. The feelings of yesterday seemed to have their place, and the sorrow and grief that threatened to encompass me are sitting...

January 18, 2012, 1:12 pm

"I want it all, I want it right now." A line from a popular movie soundtrack--I have decided to write on the topic of depression. Society, in general, has an "I want it now" mentality. There is a lot one could say about this, on many topics, and situations--Let's look at it from where I am...

February 1, 2012, 3:40 pm

I haven't talked about it too much, and frankly haven't noticed a whole lot of birth-first parents that talk about this. Signing off parental rights. I have a unique adoption story and anyone reading this knows their own story. Every story has a different flavor and experience, but we all...

February 5, 2012, 12:51 pm

The great question of identity and being a birth-first parent is one of the many combinations within and inherent to the human condition. I read a blog recently about a  how basically we think on our biological children and obsess almost, how they fill and captivate us and one day, for some, (not...